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You don't actually have to jump off the Grand Canyon to overcome your fear of traveling with people you don't really know too well. Take the Clever Compatibility test and have your intended victim, err, companion take it too. Then you might have a better idea if that person will make a good companion for you. Consider the following:
There are times when you feel the urge to go traveling but for whatever reason your spouse, significant other or best friend cannot go along. The notion of traveling alone comes up. Many of us have traveled alone before in our lives, perhaps on business or maybe family emergencies. It's usually not a very memorable experience. Lonely hotel rooms and dinners for one are the reality of business travel. Why travel alone for pleasure? A person might ask: "How much do I want to visit X-land? Enough to go by myself?"
Traveling alone for business or a family emergency is one thing, traveling alone for pleasure is something else. Words like daunting, intimidating and lonesome come to mind. Maybe somebody you know would like to go too. "Wouldn't it be fun to go to X-land? Wanna go together?" These questions, perhaps asked innocently over lunch, could be the opening lines of a horror story. Ask any traveler about bad travel experiences and more often than not the story will be about the awful travel companion.
I had such an experience. A woman friend I had known for many years asked me to join her on a combined business and pleasure trip. She wanted me to take some photographs for her and help her with the background for a script she was writing. We could do some sightseeing on the east coast at the same time. It sounded like fun. I quickly said yes. The trip was a disaster. I won't go into the bizarre details, except to say that I had no idea what she was really like until that very unpleasant experience.
Say you've shared a gazillion lunches with this particular person, you've worked together for years, you've been to movies together, whatever. But what do you really know about that person? You'll find out, perhaps much more than you ever wanted to know, when you spend the next two weeks traveling together in X-land.
Even if the two of you have compatible Myers-Briggs letters, there are personal idiosyncrasies that are sometimes overlooked, or don't even show up in people, until you're with them night and day. Is there anything you can do beforehand to insure a good travel experience? Nothing is fool-proof, but the staff at Clever Magazine have developed a compatibility checklist that may help with this problem.
Part 1: Preliminaries
__ non-stop traveling with no more than a couple of days in one place
Before you even think about traveling together, all parties concerned should be clear about where they are going, how they are going to get there and what they will be doing.
Part 2: Planning the trip
__ one person makes the travel plans, with or without input from others
Part 3: Activities
Personal habits: (circle as many items as apply to you)
Social habits: (more circles)
Things people think are fun or interesting or worth doing: (even
Let us say, for the sake of not arguing about it, that it doesn't matter which items you circled on this list. You don't have to count them, but you do need to compare them, and maybe even talk about them -- before you make definite plans. And you should be relatively honest. What does matter is that you know some or most of these things about the person you will be traveling with before you start the trip.
Otherwise you might be in for a big surprise, like say, the moment you get to the airport. Your traveling companions might not show up until the very last minute, having forgotten their passports and dragging trails of luggage that nobody can lift. The non-stop talker is making friends with everybody in sight, while trying to charm the flight attendants into stowing the luggage in the first class compartment. The vegetarian is sneering at airline food, while the list maker is perusing the travel books making tour agendas for the minute the plane hits the X-land tarmac. The bookworm is being driven nuts by the noise of it all, while happy-go-lucky snores through everything.
This may be the beginning of the vacation of your dreams or your worst nightmare. But you can only blame yourself, if you didn't know beforehand what your traveling companions are like. On second thought, if your compatibility checklist doesn't look like anybody else's, maybe traveling alone might not be such a bad idea after all. Bon Voyage!
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